List of Pre-dating Questions for Single Christian Women

Greetings Everyone,
I would like to introduce myself. My name is Sonia Vaquera. I am Rebecca’s secretary. I recently retired from the United States Air Force having served over 20 years faithfully. Rebecca asked me to write on her Facebook today about my singleness in regards to dating.

As a single woman, it is important we do not take dating lightly. In most people’s lifetimes, we are faced with three very important decisions we will have to make:

1. Choosing Jesus as Lord and Savior.
2. Choosing a job/career.
3. Who will I spend the rest of my life with?

When you have chosen Jesus as Lord and Savior, we should ask Him for guidance on the latter two choices. One day, back in November of last year, Rebecca and I were having a deep conversation regarding me dating.

I had told her that I had been in a relationship before that only ended in much heartache. You see, I had reasoned in my thoughts that when this unsaved man and I married, he would eventually become a Christian. We never married and I thank God for that. I know now that my thinking was just foolishness and it did not line up with God’s word.

How can I, as a Christian woman, convince him to become a Christian when I was deliberately disobeying God’s Word. Had we married two things would be for certain: much pain would be in my heart and I would not be able to serve God acceptably. I would have been miserable.

I am so thankful for Rebecca and Daniel, true servants of the Lord, who do not compromise the Word of God for anyone. She has provided me with list of pre-date questions and I would like to share a few of the questions with you. It is as follows:

1. What do you have to offer me?
2. Why do you want to go out with me?
3. What is your relationship with God like?
4. What do you want your future to be in God’s kingdom?
5. How often are you in and out of a relationship?
6. What do you think is the real purpose for dating?
7. What has God called you to do?
8. What kind of physical relationship do you think is appropriate for dating?
9. How often do you read your bible?
10. What has God taught you from the bible?
11. What is the most important thing in your life right now?
12. Exactly when did you accept Christ? How did it happen? Tell me the experience?
13. Do you like to talk about spiritual things?
14. Do you live a clean, pure life?
15. Do you attend church consistently?

The list goes on and on…I hope to afford you a follow up on this application in my life in the future.

So I stand on Romans 8:25, which says, “But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.” Savior, choose my husband in life for me. Not my will, but Your will be done.

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Walking Into the Promises of God (Gary Wilkerson)

When Joshua was commissioned as leader of the Israelite nation, God spoke great encouragement to him. “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go” (Joshua 1:9).

God was telling Joshua, “Be encouraged and don’t be afraid. Be strong for I am leading you into something great.” Now that Joshua was ready to take leadership in God’s great plan, things were going to happen that had never happened before. But Joshua was going to have to stand up and enter into the promises of God.

Joshua had been working alongside Moses, fighting many battles and prevailing because God was with him. He was faithful and obedient to God’s call and His rock-solid faith enabled him to become a great leader.

When Moses died, God said, “Joshua, it’s time!” How exciting to hear God say that it’s time. Joshua had been waiting and after forty years of wandering through the wilderness, he had the joy, the privilege, the opportunity to say to his people, “We’re crossing over!”

Picture yourself walking into the Promised Land along with the children of Israel. Such rejoicing! Dancing and singing before the Lord, “We made it — finally. We’re here! Hallelujah! After all these years of waiting and wandering, we are finally experiencing the promise.”

Have you been waiting for the fulfillment of a promise of God? Your battle has not been just external, but also in your heart. I encourage you to believe that greater things are yet to come for you. God is going to intervene in your circumstances and you are going to walk into your promises.

The same encouragement that God gave to Joshua can be applied to you, as well. “Be strong and courageous. The Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” As you are faithful to God, he will be faithful to you.

(A message by Bro Gary Wilkerson)